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Annie~Joy writes: Why Rampant Divorce In Marriage. #BeInspired!

This bond was set from the time of creation. In the pre-historic days when GOD, the Supreme Being, created all things and on the last day created man, He joined both man and woman together in a bond which is termed as marriage today. The traits continue since then till date. Now, my explanation for marriage is, an intimate, legal and complementing union between a man and a woman, in which these two become physically and spiritually one in life. 

In this case, I can confidently say, any union which is not physical or spiritual between a man and a woman cannot be termed as marriage. Marriage is when a man and a woman stand before God and the universe and each proclaims and signs legally that this is the man or the woman I have chosen to spend the rest of my entire life with. You the man or the woman have totally denied all proposal from various points just to be with that one person and which is strongly accepted. I would move straight to talk about DIVORCE IN MARRIAGE. 

A lot of exercise, in fact, investigations are being made before marriage yet separation occurs especially in this era. The Bible states clearly that, the only thing that can cause a divorce in marriage is when one of the partners commits ADULTERY. Marriages are separating and collapsing as a result of lack of understanding, communication and faithfulness. It looks like every lady wants to marry that rich handsome gentleman and the same thing implies with the gentleman. Yes, you can witness an exclusive marriage ceremony and the next time you will hear that the couple has been separated. Do you know why? Because, marriage is a journey on itself but it has turned into a CELEBRATION. 

The man wants the best bride who can fit his bought wedding gown and the woman wants the groom who has got the team that can spend huge sum of money during her wedding so that it can be posted wide and coloured on the various media platforms. It has been forgotten that MARRIAGE itself is a journey and has got different colours which will be displayed as time goes on. So after the CELEBRATION, it is up to the couple, and GOD to sustain their marriage journey. Also, some people enter into marriage as a result of societal demands. Others, because of external peer influence. Due to that, MARRIAGE has become a movie theatre which anyone enters and come out anytime and the one who enjoys the movie stays in for a while or forever. 

This is odd, the dress that needs to be put on to demonstrate marriage has turned into a different thing. As we now know that MARRIAGE is a Journey in this article, then we will have to know the needed items. You have poor communication skills yet you want to marry or have entered into one. Gentlemen don't or didn't you know that women's highly recommended item in marriage is ATTENTION and attention can be exercised based on proper communication? If you are one body with the person, it means when you see yourself, you see the person, why then do you keep secrets from each other? One major problem which needs to be hammered on is that, people enter marriages as a result of what the person has really made in life. 

For example, Yvonne married Johnson because he has already planted apples and she  wants to go in and enjoy the harvest (proverb), which is wrong. She will go and enjoy the harvest and when the apples are finished, she will be nagging for divorce. Marriage should have been, if Johnson has already planted the apples, Yvonne should go and help in the harvest and after, join in replanting. The motive for marrying should be the two spouses building from the foundation together with faithfulness, love and passion. MARRIAGE shouldn't be about having the prettiest wife or the six-packed gentleman for exclusive photoshoots to be posted on the social media but having the wife who has got the motherly features and not just a wife. 

One of these days, I will write about having a mother and not a wife. If you don't plan your journey on marriage well and get the understanding about that journey, MARRIAGE will continue to be a CELEBRATION. This enjoyment will be once in a lifetime and those who joined in the celebration won't wish to organize one. Those who are already in it will continue to wet their pillows because of it's struggles. Not to forget about Divorce, which will continue to be rampant and normal in the above situations. MARRIAGE will continue to be a contract deal and not just a lifetime journey. Youth, you need to visit your dictionaries once more to get the understanding for what the words are. I am going to list below some required items when entering into marriage in order to survive in that journey.

1. Knowledge and wisdom
 
2. Love and affection 

3. Unity and togetherness 

4. Attention and effective communication 

5. Respect and harmony 

6. If you have seen any MARRIED couple whose marriage has exceeded (10+)years, make your possible best to get close the couple and seek for EDUCATION. Ask questions and know what has kept them together for that long. Pick out your best from the education and save it in your heart for the future. Marriage should be an honourable Journey. "I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant."(Martin Luther)


Writer: Annie Joy
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